Sunday, March 1, 2015

Crazy Pelvic Pain- Normal?

So I have been having this ridiculous pain in my pelvic area, which makes it a nightmare to walk, especially after a long day, and it lasts until the next day. I have been told to work out, and it only makes it worse. I hate googling things, because it makes me worry. I have read about many people having the same issue and told either be on bed rest or work out more, the baby could come early, and if it isn't SPD it could be ruptured cysts from my PCOS. However that would be life threatening and I would be dead already if that were the case because I have had this pain since about 25 weeks, and now I am 32 weeks.  I told my doc about it of course, and he says its normal. It is so painful I can't sleep. Which is okay since I have been too busy for sleep anyway. I am taking 2 business classes, running a business, painting the gallery, teaching classes and helping out at the Tacky Palette, working on an illustration job, a commissioned work, and a few other projects of my own.
My mom has to speak at a conference in California in March, and if this baby comes early, which according to my research is a good possibility, she wont be able to make it.
I found this article which pretty much sums up the pain pretty well.

for more go to: http://www.whattoexpect.com/blogs/astudentatmamauniversity/spd-the-pain-no-one-could-explain

She basically sums up and says that she had to go to a chiropractor, wear a brace, and do kegel exorcises and heating pads.  None of which sound helpful in the least. But I will talk to my doctor about what can be done when I go this week. I am getting more terrified of delivery by the minute with this pain. If simply walking and turning in bed is painful... How am I going to push out a baby? AHH!  Has anyone else had this pain, and found the cause AND the RELIEF? Should I work out or stay on my feet. I feel better when I have rested a few hours, but then I go and work again and if I sit for a few minutes I can't get back up! *frustration*  Instinct says to sit on my ass, but I don't have time.  I might have just changed my mind about an epidural if I can deliver traditionally. Yeah I know, everyone said I would change my mind ;p

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

So things are getting wild, and I ALMOST feel like an adult now

First off, we are on the ball with finances for the first time ever. It is quite a wonderful feeling.
Second, my business is finally kicking off.
Since I got married, my name changed and so did the name of my business, it is now Moonbow Studio, and until my mom is finished with my real site, it can be found at Moonbowstudio.weebly.com.
NOW I have a gallery where I am a subcontractor at the Tacky Pallet in Elizabethtown, where I am also about to start teaching my own classes! It is so exciting. They will let me bring the baby, they provide me with paints and canvas, and I have a place to do business and sell my work for the first time! I am in the process of updating my site, and my website link everywhere. I am about to get a business line, and I will probably be spending most days at the gallery working. So I have a TON going on right now. I have to fill the gallery, and organize events, plan paintings basic enough to teach, hold classes and move everything over to the gallery.
But it is great to have finally have found an artist community where I can have my work critiqued, and sold regularly, and a space other than my bedroom to paint in, with no shortage of supplies. Acrylic anyway. Things are finally falling into place!

Sunday, February 1, 2015

Baby Picture Maker 2

I think they made the baby a little fat, not the cutest baby in the world, but he would make a cutie when he grows up!

It seems more accurate this time. I tried it again with different photos. I can actually see both of us in the face this time.


Thursday, January 8, 2015

Grocery coupons- simplified!

Check your local grocery store website. 

Our local grocery store is Kroger, and they provide free cards for discounts in the store, they mail us coupons in the mail, but what is really cool that I only just now realized, is that on their website, is you can add your kroger card to an account and load it with e-coupons. You do not have to print them out or use a smart device. You can simply click - "Load to card", and when you go to make the purchase, the coupon is already there and taken out when you swipe the card. So see if your local store has this feature. We also save on gas when we use our Kroger card at the pump. It is magical, so check it out. It is something easy that can save you a lot of money. 

Sunday, January 4, 2015

My friend Jennifer sent me this article and it is awesome.

http://alphamom.com/parenting/baby/the-straight-poop-on-cloth-diapers/

O Great and Mighty Cloth Diapering Amalah,
I have an issue with cloth diapers. It is apparently an issue that nobody else commenting has. It is an issue that you clearly stated you don’t deal with. My issue is… Poop.
Now, let me clarify. I do not squeal in horror when I have to wipe up a poopy little butt. I do not faint when I accidentally get a bit of poopy on my hand while cleaning up the baby. When an acquaintance mentioned he didn’t want kids because he couldn’t stand the thought of getting poop on him, I started praying he’d be sterile because SERIOUSLY, you just can’t have kids if you mind poop.
However, poop IS gross. Plopping a solid turd off a cloth diaper into the toilet is cool. Getting semisolid (think sweet potato casserole) poop off a cloth diaper is NOT COOL. Having a toddler who does not have regular bowel habits, and who tends to have soft poopies, does not seem compatible with cloth diapers. Also, breastfed baby poo, same issue.
Even if I had one of those nifty toilet sprayers… unless it sprays so hard that I imagine the water jet bouncing back off the diaper onto the toilet tank, I can’t figure out how the squished-into-the-fabric poop is going to come off the diaper without me physically scrubbing it out. EW? And/or, then the possibility of leftover poop in the washer. Also… EW?!
Am I missing something, or am I just 100% incompatible with cloth diapering?
Thanks a zillion.
-Della

Well, actually, you ARE missing a couple handy tips that make the Poop Issue easier (more on those in a moment). And also the correlation between your truly-terrified-of-poop friend and your own fears — your imagination is generally worse than reality, and even when reality IS pretty gross (like that time my baby had an explosive poop all over my lap at a restaurant that only had the tiniest bathroom ever, like there wasn’t enough room between the toilet and the door for the diaper bag, much less a three-month-old) you just sort of…take it in stride and deal with it, knowing that the benefits of babies and children outweigh the occasional brush with grossness.
And speaking of benefits, the aforementioned Grossest Thing Ever story? Happened in a disposable. The explosive, leaking-out-the-leg-holes, shooting-up-the-back poops always happen in disposables. bumGenius? Fuzzi Bunz? They contain those poops. They LAUGH at those poops.
As for dealing with your Standard Issue Baby Poop, there are a few things you should know about cloth diapers. First, breastmilk poop is completely and 100% water soluble. You do nothing to these diapers except toss them in your pail, then they go directly in the wash, no scrubbing or rinsing or scraping. The poop washes away, really and truly. We were just starting solids when we switched, and still regularly had all-breastmilk poops, and I can testify that really, it was like washing mustard-colored water.
Once you’re dealing with real poops, the mantra really becomes “you do the best you can.” Dump or shake or scrape off what you can — as long as we’re not talking huge chunks of solids, your washing machine can very likely handle it. You can use flushable liners to catch most of it, even when we’re talking about sweet potato casserole. I use the rice paper liners, and while they do their intended job just fine, I don’t love them because they don’t strike me as being particularly comfortable. (They kind of stick to little-boy parts and aren’t very soft.) I’ve heard very high praise for the Bummis liners, though, and plan to try those next. (When I run out of my supply of 200-for-12-bucks rice paper liners. Sometime in the next century.)
If, say, you’ve got a really nasty load and didn’t use a liner, or your child has diarrhea, I’ve HEARD the diaper sprayers are a godsend. But I’ll have to leave it to the commenters to describe the process in more detail, because I don’t personally own one. I do, however, own a 99-cent plastic spatula. I store it under the sink in a plastic bucket, and bust it out to scrape smushy poops off. It literally takes two seconds, then I rinse it off, wipe it down with a Clorox wipe and toss it back in the bucket.
(Also, if I may get even more graphic here, and this may just be my own personal experience…but have any other cloth diaperers noticed that poops don’t get quite as compressed and spread out as they do in disposables? This could be because of my bad habit of squeezing my kids into slightly-too-small diapers for too long because I bought too many Size Twos right before a growth spurt, but I feel like I deal with fewer really messy poops and more shake-able turds now.)
And finally, your choice of diaper pail is important. We use the dry pail system — a regular metal pail with a tight-fitting lid and a liner bag for smell-containment and easy laundry-day transferring. We used the bumGenius Odor Remover spray for awhile but lost interest once we ran out — it was best for really ammonia-heavy toddler pee, which we aren’t dealing with anymore. The dry pail system is the one that requires the shaking and scraping, though I admit I have tossed some NASTY DIAPERS in there. As long as we do a good long cold soak in the washer and drain the water before actually washing the diapers, I have never had a problem with stray solids staying in the washer. (I don’t have a great fancy HE washer either, just a standard ancient-ish top loader.)
If you want to skip the shaking and scraping process, you can opt for a wet pail. It basically starts the soaking process right there in the pail. Pull the diaper off your baby, toss it into a pail filled about halfway with water and (this is important for safety) LOCK THE LID. Personally, I’d still shake as much as possible into the toilet first, but I did that even when I used disposables, because EW. Why keep it around in the house if you don’t absolutely have to? We went with the dry pail system mostly because of the layout of our house — we have to carry laundry down two flights of stairs, and a wet pail is HEAVY with all that water. If we still lived in our condo, where the diaper pail sat less than three feet away from our washer, I’d probably give it a try, just for the better stain-prevention benefits. Your choice probably should depend on which you find more gross — shaking/scraping a couple times a day…or confronting a bucket of brown poop-water on laundry day.
I know this all sounds like so much, uh, up-close-and-personal dealing-with-poop WORK, but I swear to God, it really isn’t. I can take most of the bodily fluid aspects of motherhood in stride, but it’s not like I ENJOY dealing with rank diapers and bad smells and all of that. It just doesn’t really take that long, or that much real effort. Ask my husband, who was at one time every bit as terrified of the Poop Thing as your childless friend, but is now a fellow cloth diaper evangelist. (I think our only complaint is directed at each other, since both my husband and I have a habit of setting dirty diapers on the bathroom sink while we get the baby dressed and situated someplace else…and then completely forget to go back and deal with the diaper. Surprise!)
(Oh, and while this doesn’t directly involve the topic at hand, this column has become my primary place to geek out about cloth diapers, so I’ll tack it on anyway: Finally sacked up and switched to powdered Charlie’s Soap after we started having some pretty bad Stink Problems. Oh. Em. Gee. You guys. I love it. I beyond love it. I am tempted to take the bag to bed with me for cuddles.)

M2B's let's save some money!

 What worked for me


How being organized can save you money, and how saving money can keep you organized. 
(Written by a non-clean freak, for the non clean freak, and the unorganized who wish to be organized.)

*I mean clean freak in a loving way. I envy the clean. 


Call me another Dave Ramsey Loony, yep go ahead. But we are on our way with success. It took a while to get Kyle on board, and now that he is we are excited about how much we are saving simply by doing these simple things:

(Not all of these things are preached by Dave Ramsey, these are tips that I have accumulated from personal experience or around the web as well, compiled neatly in once place, just the things that have worked for me. I hope it helps someone else. But having that budget and encouragement from Dave Ramsey really jump started our excitement about saving money. )

Budget every penny!   I am "the nerd" and have fun making it, and he edits. 
Catch up on all bills, getting them all on the same cycle.
Dividing monthly bills into 4 payments and having them come out automatically every week. No more late fees, and worrying about the bills! They are paid! It is so wonderful. Kyle was sooooo joyed when the second week of this rolled around and he didn't have to think about all the bills, and which were do this week, if we would have enough, late fees. GOODBYE!
Being anal about the Electric bill! Seriously, we were using 10$ a day for a while, 70 a week, Now we use no more than 4$ a day. 
Putting money into the ACCESSIBLE savings account every week.
Giving us both an allowance for spending. Usually I never have money unless its a gift, now we both have spending money and its guilt free spending.
Turn down the thermostat! And bundle up. Bringing down your temp by 2 degrees can make a world of difference. Drink hot fluids, bundle up and open your blinds during the day, which will help to naturally warm the house, less work on the heating system. At night you can bring it up a bit. I like the house at 69 degrees, During the day I have had it at 65 with the blinds open, and bundled up, then at night I bring it up the 67. Maybe you can't stand the cold, and I get that. Earlier in the pregnancy the slightest change in temp would give me the shivers and shakes, but now I am chilling in 65 degrees happily in my new fuzzy socks, sweater, and scarf sipping on some tea. Ooo yeah.  Seriously, our bill went from 10 bucks a day to no more than 4. Top that!
Planning your meals a week ahead of time.
Pack his lunch. Do the math, at Kyle's work, I know lunch is about 6-7$ a day in the cafeteria. More if he goes out to get fast food plus the extra gas. Might as well pack it since you have a kid on the way. Learn to get into the habit. It is also a bit romantic for your significant other to leave little notes every once in a while, and a convenient way to get them to take their vitamins every day. Adults need them too! I pack it right in. I put it into one of my many saved grocery baggies every day.
Leaving the card at home. You heard me. Don't take it. Take that handy envelope pre-budgeted with "pocket money", and that's it for the week. 
Buy the bigger bag. I don't care if the small one at the dollar store on the way home is more convenient. It is something like 1/6th of the dog food, for half the price of the big bag. 
Use that power strip since you have it! Turn the switch off at night. We have the DVR in the wall so we still get our recordings. 
Do laundry every day. Seriously, I should have been doing this a long time ago. It saves in the long run to span them out, instead of waiting for that one day of the week to do it all at once, which turns into a week of catch up and a month of catch up when your super busy, and you find yourself re-washing things that sat too long, putting it on a higher soil level, using more detergent, and hotter water. I know I am not the only one who gets stuck in this cycle. 
Clean out the stupid fridge! How much food was forgotten because it was "hiding"? I read this awesome article on how simply being organized can save you a ton of money. I am one of those who likes organizing things, but I get easily discouraged and don't always stick with it if there is a lot of change going on that messes with my routine. Seems like there is always a ton of change that throws me off.  But I read another article about the psychology of a habit, I am sure every one has heard some variant, but when you limit the amount of new habits you make at once, in 30 day increments, the good habits are easier to form and keep before you try to make room for more. 
Change is a two person game. Especially if you are married or living with someone else. You can make all the good habits you want your own way, but if the other person doesn't commit, it probably wont work. Find a way to introduce new good habits in a way that will also work for your significant other. For example, my husband sticks to something if properly motivated. Once I started making dinner and having it hot and on the table for him every night when he comes home, he is not allowed to touch his dinner until he does his three chores, which take about 5 minutes. It has worked the past couple of months and now it is automatic because we stuck to it. If he wants food he has to clean the litter box, take out the trash, and scrub all the work grime off his hands and nails. Simply making sure those things are done every day saves money, we don't have to buy as much litter for example because it stays cleaner. At first when I got pregnant and it became his job it took a bit of nagging to get him to do it, and sometimes it would take an extra day. 
Buy cans, or bulk of whatever it is you drink.  Kyle was drinking 2 sodas from the gas station a day before we started budgeting. Sometimes three. He had his card on him, and he didn't realize how much they added up. That adds up to almost 100 bucks a month. When I get cans, they are cheaper and I can set his daily limit in the fridge. He still has his pocket allowance money, as do I, but once it is gone that's it. So he has moderated his behavior, and so have I. We think twice when we pass a fast food place now, because it comes out of our pocket money for the week. 
You get what you pay for. Spend a little extra for the things where quality matters so that you don't have to keep replacing it. No,  I am not saying to go get a Star Bucks because it is better quality. You know darn well what I mean.
NEGOTIATE. Whether it is buying a present at the store that is just a tad over budget, or your internet bill. We were a bit late doing our Christmas presents this year because to catch up on all of our bills, we had to sacrifice for a few weeks, Once they were caught up we were able to budget our presents, though a bit late. I walked into this shop, it helps that it was a non-corp business, and I found the perfect gift for my mom and step father who happen to love the same thing. I have 20 bucks budgeted per person, and what I wanted to get as a combined present for both of them cost 59 bucks. I walked up to the cashier and said that I could only buy it if it were 40$. I had a budget to stick to. I started offering to pre-order things for gifts for next weeks budget, and the guy just gave me the deal without any real hassle. I saved quite a bit too. Then I called up our internet provider, and our cable provider and told them I was paying too much and was putting my foot down. They threw me deals. It was magical. That saves us a ton in the long run for sure!
Read your labels. This is actually a tip from my mother in law. I am not just talking about food here, look at your medicine bottles, and look at the active ingredients. Don't buy cold medicine, it is a waste. Go get a basic antihistamine, it will relieve your symptoms at a quarter of the cost for 60 pills instead of only 12 or however many those boxes of meds cost. 
Don't get sick in the first place. Kyle and I used to get sick every time the season changed, it would start with a simple sinus infection and then would spiral into bronchitis, laryngitis or whatever happened to be going around from our weakened immune system. Then we started taking echinacea, also courtesy of my mother in law,every time we felt sick. We would take like 4 the day we felt sick and then one a day until we were sure we had dodged it. It's been about two years since we have been seriously ill now from something of that nature and it has saved us a lot in the long run. We used to try everything to feel better, and bought much more than we ever needed. So take some echinacea when you feel something coming on and skip the cold all together. LOL now when Kyle sneezes I run to the medicine cabinet, fully stocked with echinacea, and make him take it immediately. Plus it is all natural! Those beautiful pink cone flowers are good for more than their looks. 
FREEZE leftovers. It turns out having a full freezer helps lock in the temperature and saves electricity, plus when you are in a rush and haven't gone to get the bread on your list for lunch, that leftover soup is ready to go. Getting him to eat it is another thing entirely, but you packed it and did your job! Some things you cook too can be applied to other meals, like the leftover veggies in the bottom of your baked chicken pan. Freeze the veggies, and juice, and throw it on top of some rice another day for lunch. 
Make some extra cash. Do some blogging and hook it up to adsense. It is magical. Do the fancy dance around some link-to's by having a ton of blogs, all linked to each other or at least back to your main source of income (my art site is mine), and it will generate traffic. It takes time to get followers, but I have already been quoted on multiple blogs. Its in the works here. Turn your hobbies into money.  
De-clutter. You don't even have to go through the trouble of a yard sale, and storing everything until spring, simply go through everything in your house and donate the stuff you don't use and have no intention of using. Turn all of your hangers the opposite way in the closet and by the end of the year, what isn't turned around GOES. You can sell or donate them, or give them to a friend in need but get the clutter out. I mentioned an article that I read about where they talked about how being organized can save you money. I realized that one of my main motivational problems was that I had stuff everywhere, and it felt like as soon as I would get it cleaned, clutter was everywhere again. So many things that we just don't have a place for or use, and is always in the way. They pile up, and can make the daily cleaning process daunting. So I finally went through every closet in the house, since I was running out of space for things, which was half my problem. I looked at organizational stuff on pinterest and learned a ton of useful ways to use some things I would usually never use or throw away. Like the weird hangers that pants come on, you can break those off the hangers and use them as bag clips. Woot! I used empty egg cartons for my clutter drawers, gave everything a place. Still have a lot to do, but every little thing has been the momentum I need to get into organizational shape! I haven't gotten myself paint yet, still saving so I can get canvases too, and new brushes. But I am making this really cool wall border for the baby room out of toilet paper rolls. Sounds terrible, but go ahead and look at it on pinterest. It is really cool and eco-friendly fun. I will post pics when I am done.
Snack bags are awesome. So we keep accumulating bags of chips, and nuts, wasabi peas, dried fruits, and such. Snacks were something I never even kept around before. Pregnancy changed that because I get hungry so frequently. I try to stick to things that can be used in recipes too though, and other things are given to us. But anyway, I accidentally bought the wrong size plastic bags at the grocery, instead of something a sandwich could fit into, I wound up with these tiny snack bags. At first, I could not imagine what on earth I could do with them. But then, I started putting those weird leftover snacks into them for Kyle to take for work, and for myself to eat in the house, and it helped me portion how large my snacks are. I am no longer grabbing the whole bag of dried cranberries, I grab a small pre-portioned size thing of it, and I am done when it is empty. I sometimes don't know when to stop eating if I have the whole bag in front of me. I am an all- American girl for sure.  Now I am pro- snack, and Kyle loves having a variety of things in his lunch bag. The tiny little snack bags also make those giant bags of chips last longer. 
Convenient, shmeeement. Sodas at the station, popcorn at the movies, that present online which costs double due to shipping, those pre-made and easily disposable diapers that require no washing, those baby wipes that are already wet, those chemical cleaners pre-mixed with a name brand, those boxes of hamburger helper instead of getting the noodles and seasonings yourself that would last many more meals in the long run. These just a few examples of frivolous things that we have taken into our daily routines because they are faster. I dare you to compare your spending habits to those of Europe, (who happens to have a positive savings rate while America has a negative savings rate). I was reading some comments on a blog about cloth vs disposable diapers, and this British lady was talking about how frivolous and stupid Americans are about babies. In the UK most people use cloth diapers, and instead of baby wipes, they wash their babies bum in the sink, and make rags out of old shirts. 
I think she had a point. And she added that it was cruel to get something that absorbs more on purpose, because that means your going to let your baby sit in their own filth as long as it is not leaking. What is more comfortable about that?

Side note- rant
In high school I took a health class, and we were going over toxic shock syndrome, Once upon a time TSS was common because tampons were made to be so absorbent that women would wear them until they leaked, and by the time that happened they had TSS. I bring this up because it is what people seem to do with diapers. 

Did you know that having a clean home is Biblical? Girder your Loins was saying more than be hygienic. It says to be prepared for when Jesus shows up at your door. I can't get that scripture out of my head and I think it's Gods way of telling me that cleaning your home and being organized is important in so many ways. It effects how we interact with people who come over, how we feel about our selves, self worth, it influences our finances, and so much more. It is hard for me to say "Sure you can crash on my couch!" when my couch is a disaster zone. So get organized, YOUR WAY. I think I spent too long trying to do it everyone else's way, and it just wasn't working more me. Do it however keeps you motivated, and you will see the effects of it seep into every other aspect of your life. Don't think that I am some organized clean freak preaching to you about cleaning. Often I look up stuff about organization and it is all written by people who have never seemed to struggle with it, who can afford 50 sorting bins and cute baskets at 12 bucks a piece. It is something they do naturally. But for some of us it doesn't come so naturally, and it is something we have to learn. I feel like now that I am having a baby I have to turn into the perfect parent in 9 months, and now I am 3 months away and no where close to ready for this baby. I have so many bad habits to work on and change. I am however blessed with a man who has always been open to new ideas, willing to try new things, and wants to better himself with me. 

Bottom Line:

That extra money added up so much that we can put 125$ a week into savings, Kyle was scared to save 25 a week when we started. But once we got going and he saw how much extra we had after all the bills are paid, and we both get allowances for whatever we want, giving, and everything we need... we have money leftover AFTER ALL THAT to save toward the big ticket items we want! It's magical. Maybe this stuff is nothing new for you. But we got into a lot of bad habits, and bad spending habits and never learned to save money. Thanks to Dave Ramsey we are learning, and now member of FPU, and we hope that others out there can benefit as well. 

"Budgeting" sounds terrifying. It seems so big, and hard, and it sounds like Atkins for your cash. But its really not. It is more like just deciding ahead of time what your going to do with it, so you aren't wondering at the end of the week where the money went before you could get what you really wanted. Seriously, try it. 

We were at the gas station after going to the grocery, Kyle went in and I stayed in the car, and he took a while, he came back and said that he got into a conversation with the guy working there who was really struggling financially, and also has a baby on the way. Kyle told him about Dave Ramsey, and how budgeting has quickly changed his life once he committed to it. The guy working there got so excited, and we budgeted an extra 10 bucks to bring the guy a copy of the book the next time we go to the grocery and stop at that gas station. 

Dave Ramsey is about more than just budgeting. He gets down to the core of our spending problems, and once he teaches us how to accumulate money, he teaches us how to make it grow and encourages you to spend it right. And you can call him on his show every day and ask him for advice. He is everyone's personal money trainer there for you every day, and you also get to hear people thank him every day for his teachings and encouragement. 


Do you have any money saving tips? I know there are a lot out there, but these are the ones that I found that really worked for me. What works for you?

Baby Picture Maker

Just for fun I submitted pictures of Kyle and I to babypicturemaker.com. This might just be a random picture of a baby. It doesn't make sense that our baby would have brown eyes. But people swear by this site. I submitted the pictures last night and got the result this morning. It has Kyle's hair sort of lol. I think they just sent us a picture of a random baby though. I might try sending pictures of my parents and see if it pops out with a baby that looks like me for fun. 

Saturday, January 3, 2015

Good Nite Lite

http://www.goodnitelite.com/

This handy device comes highly recommended by parents around the web.

Bottle Feeding and Pacifiers

http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/feeding-eating/breastfeeding/common-problems/nipple-confusion


Nipple Confusion

There are some basic mechanical differences between how a baby gets milk from a bottle and how a baby gets milk out of the breast. Giving bottles or pacifiers to young, breastfeeding babies often leads to nipple confusion. Baby tries to use the bottle-feeding technique on the breast and has difficulty latching-on and sucking. Baby gets very frustrated, and so does mother. Nipple confusion can even lead to baby refusing the breast. Here’s an explanation.
To get milk from the breast, baby must coordinate tongue and jaw movements in a sucking motion that’s unique to breastfeeding.
  • When baby latches onto the breast, he opens his mouth wide and draws the very stretchable nipple and areolar tissue far back into his mouth.
  • The tongue holds the breast tissue against the roof of baby’s mouth while forming a trough beneath the nipple and areola.
  • The gums compress the milk sinuses underneath the areola (the pigmented area around the nipple) while the tongue rhythmically “milks” the breast with a wave-like motion from front to back, drawing the milk from the areola and the nipple.
  • Since the nipple is far back in baby’s mouth, it’s not compressed by the gums, so it’s less likely to get sore.
Babies suck from a bottle entirely differently. Thanks to gravity, milk flows from a bottle so easily that baby does not have to suck “correctly” to get milk.
  • He doesn’t have to open his mouth as wide or correctly turn out the lips to form a tight seal.
  • The bottle nipple does not need to be far back into the mouth, nor is the milking action of the tongue necessary.
  • Baby can lazily gum the nubbin of the rubber and suck with only his lips.
  • When the milk comes out too fast, baby may thrust his tongue forward and upward, to stop the flow from the nipple.
  • Milk keeps on coming during feedings from bottles–whether or not baby sucks–so there are no pauses to rest during bottle-feedings.
Problems occur when babies apply the lessons learned from bottle-feeding to nursing at the breast. When you compare the illustration of sucking at an artificial nipple with the illustration of sucking at the breast, you will see that if baby sucks from the breast the same way he does the bottle, the tongue and the gums will traumatize mother’s nipple.
  • Babies who get bottles soon after birth may thrust their tongue upward during sucking and push the breast nipple out of their mouth.
  • They don’t open their mouths wide enough when latching-on, so they suck only the tip of the nipple. They don’t get enough milk, and mother’s nipples get sore.
  • Baby becomes accustomed to the immediate flow of milk that comes from the bottle; at the breast, babies have to suck for a minute or two to stimulate mother’s milk ejection reflex and get the milk flowing.
Does this mean that bottle-feeding is easier than breastfeeding? Yes, and no. Bottles require less sucking finesse and less effort. However, studies comparing premature infants during bottle-feedings and during breastfeedings have shown that breastfeeding is actually less stressful.
  • Babies’ breathing and heart rate are more stable during feedings at the breast.
  • Babies have more control over the milk flow and can establish a more regular rhythm of sucking, swallowing, and pausing.
  • Feeding at the breast also requires less energy.
PREVENTING NIPPLE CONFUSION
It is easier to prevent nipple confusion than to fix it–though it is a problem that can be solved, should it occur (see below). Breastfed babies should not be given artificial nipples during the first three to four weeks when they are learning and perfecting their breastfeeding skills. Avoiding artificial nipples means avoiding pacifiers as well as bottles. Supplements, if medically necessary, can be given in ways that don’t involve artificial nipples. (See Alternatives to Bottles.)
Will it be more difficult to introduce the bottle later? Many mothers, because they are going back to work or because they eventually plan to get out for a few hours by themselves, want their breastfed babies to accept feedings from bottles. They have heard stories of babies who adamantly refused anything but the breast. Getting baby to accept a bottle at age two or three months may take some patience, but most babies will catch on after a few tries. (Babies can also be fed with alternatives to bottles when mother is gone.) While introducing the bottle at one or two weeks of age may insure that baby accepts the bottle later, you’re taking a risk. Some babies easily go back and forth between breast and bottle, but many others do not. Don’t jeopardize your breastfeeding relationship when it has barely begun.
UN-CONFUSING THE NIPPLE-CONFUSED BABY
When a baby who is getting bottles begins to balk at taking the breast, nipple confusion is probably at the heart of the problem. Here’s how to re-teach a baby what to do at the breast:
  • Banish bottles and pacifiers. Even if your baby will eventually have to learn to use the bottle because you are returning to work, don’t ask him to learn both skills at the same time.
  • If supplements are needed, they can be given in ways that don’t use artificial nipples.(See Alternatives to bottles.)
  • Reacquaint baby with the pleasures of breastfeeding. Give her lots of skin-to-skin contact. Carry her in a sling near the breast between feedings.
  • Breastfeed when baby is calm, usually in the morning or upon awakening from a nap. Don’t wait until baby is ravenously hungry–she’ll be in no mood to try something new.
  • Review the latch-on basics. Be sure that baby is positioned properly in your arms. Wait until her mouth is wide open and her tongue is down before latching her on to the breast.
  • Show and tell. Open your mouth as you say “open” to baby during latch-on. Even newborns can imitate adult facial expressions.
  • Provide baby with instant gratification at the breast. Use a breast pump or manual expression to stimulate your milk ejection reflex and get the milk flowing before latching baby on. She’ll be rewarded with a hearty flow of milk after the first few sucks.
  • Use an eyedropper or feeding syringe to drip milk into baby’s mouth as she latches on to the breast. (Get some help with this one.) This may encourage baby to stay latched-on and to continue sucking.
  • For more suggestions and support, get help from a La Leche League Leader or a lactation consultant.
Babies often act puzzled or uncertain when they are re-introduced to the breast. Be patient. Praise your baby for every tiny step she takes back to breastfeeding. It may take a few days to woo baby back to the breast, but you can do it.

DONT TAKE TOO MANY ANTI-ACIDS

I am glad that I read about gallstones after I made the post called "AHHHHHH". 

So gallstones are common in pregnancy, and they are caused by LOW STOMACH ACID. 

You know what else is common in pregnancy? HEART BURN. 

So it is fair to conclude that take too many ACID REDUCERS, can cause gallstones if taken excessively.

My doctor says it is perfectly safe to take Zantec which has been a life saver. But because I am weary of medications to begin with I try to wait until I am in total agony to take anything. And I am glad that I do. I got checked out and no gallstones, and if it weren't for that scare, I might have been popping anti-acids like candy like my dad does. 

I still have no idea what had caused that pain below my ribs. The only other thing I found based on my research that could have caused it is muscular separation, also normal, but no clear signs of it.  Who knows. If you had that problem once upon a time, I would love to know what it was! 

Anyway, I hope this advice can help someone else. 

Meat Aversions: Averted (and other notes to M2B'S out there)


Funny story, we were going to the grocery two days after Christmas, and it seemed that the grocery store had been emptied as if an apocalypse were coming. Because it is Kentucky, there could have been a 10% chance of a light snow or slush, and people will empty the store.

So as we were going from isle to isle we were amazed at the things left on the shelves. At first we thought that Kroger switched providers or something and got a new variety of stock. But when we asked about it at the check out line, they said that they had not.

Because the shelves had been emptied of everyone's go-to items, we noticed all of the things we usually never paid any attention to. It was awesome. When we found something called Lintels, quinoa, and barley, Kyle said "Didn't your doctor say to eat lintels?" I said "I don't know, what are lintels?"

So we got the barley, lintels, and some cool fruits we had never heard of, which is always fun, and I am eating one part granola, and one part dried oats for breakfast. The recipes that I have made with barley and lintels are awesome, and we ended up saving a ton on groceries.  It's been great too for my current meat aversions, because lintels pack a ton of protein.

On day one I made  Barley and Lintel veggie skillet, and I accidentally made waaaaay too much, which worked out great. It was surprisingly easy, I was scared it would be as daunting as making your own beans.

For the rest of the week I used the leftovers to top my salad for lunches, and at the end of the week when I still had a lot of leftover, I added them to water with some beef bouillon cubes and made a wonderful beef barley lintel soup, that Kyle loved despite his annoyance with how often I make soup. I had a lot of leftover soup, and split it into multiple containers and froze them for lunches, either for me, or for when we run out of bread or something for Kyle's daily lunch sandwiches that I make.

So the rest of the food that I bought for that week is still there for this week, and we barely needed anything at the grocery, we were able to make our budget a masterpiece this week.

It's not just like eating beans and rice, it is more flavorful and fits into so many recipes, it is classier and super healthy with tons of fiber which has definitely helped me feel better, and we both like it a lot, and its easier and cheaper than beans and rice considering the work that it takes to cook beans raw, and the barley stores much longer than rice, and it gets better by the time you throw it into that soup, the barley is so soft and as it should be. I can't wait to find more recipes.

On tonight's menu, Kyle's favorite, Kentucky Stuffed peppers, from our Home living magazine cook book.

So bottom line, I realized that I was not really exposed to that many foods growing up. We basically made the same things every week, and there are so many other options out there that are cheap, and that are delicious and healthy. Getting something cheaper as your staple like barley and lintels, freed up our grocery budget to get those more expensive things that you always wanted to try, or cant afford very often.

I am sooooo happy the holidays are over, because there are so many sweets everywhere calling my name.

Still having trouble sleeping, and I hurt all over, but eating healthier, and not being afraid of whats in the fridge is a big help. The doctor said that my meat aversions might have been that I wasn't getting enough calcium, so by having cereal in the morning, I am eating fine now, still not a big fan of meat at the moment but it doesn't make me so sick.   So if you found this because you are having horrible meat aversions, eat cereal with milk in the morning, drink the milk if you aren't a fan of milk like me, add a sweetener packet or sugar, or get some yogurt. See if that helps, and in the mean time, get your protein from something like lintels.

And if you know someone who has gestational diabetes, and cannot have sweets, be considerate, and don't give it to them as a Christmas gift, and surround them with sweets. Especially if it is someone who has a bit of sweet tooth.  Fruit is a great thing to tempt a pregnant woman with. I went a little overboard at Christmas and ate a huge bowl of fruit. A little embarrassing to say the least but its better than chowing down on cake.

And for those of you out there unsure if it is safe to sleep on your back while pregnant, because though you read that it is not, everyone says they laid on their back and their baby was fine, I checked with my OBGYN. and she confirmed that you cannot lay on your back. Don't do it, its dangerous. I naturally roll on to my back at night, but I always wake up in terror and notice it, because I am having trouble sleeping anyway, and I switch positions. Maybe little sleep is natures way of keeping you off your back?

Cloth VS Disposable diapers



I keep finding blogs where moms talk about this cloth diaper trial system, which allows you to compare the different cloth diapers.

http://www.jilliansdrawers.com/products/clothdiapers/tryclothfor10/tryclothfor10

then I found this:

http://www.babygearlab.com/Cloth-Diaper-Reviews

I asked everyone on facebook for their opinion on cloth vs disposable, and everyone says disposable because the cloth ones are uncomfortable for the baby because they leak.

But this has also come from older people...

It turns out that diaper technology has advanced quite a bit, at a cost, but in the long run because they are one size fits all, you can reuse them in the long run and save a ton of money.

Many moms say it is best to do both, there are times when it is better to have disposables on hand which I understand, and would probably do, if I choose cloth.

There are still many aspects of the new cloth diapers that I think I would have to see to understand, they seem to have multiple components, some have inserts. The two winners I read much about were the pocket vs. pre-folded, pre-folded will last over night but are bulkier more like a disposable diaper. And the pre-folded have covers to wear over the diaper itself that soaks the leaks.

The nice ones that don't leak however are very pricey, and have to be line dried, which I do not like. So I would definitely need to take them for a test drive before I commit to them.

But honestly disposable diapers seem like a waste, and unnatural to me, comparable to eating fast food for every meal instead of cooking yourself.


Because we are doing so well with our Dave Ramsey Budget, we are considering, based on reading about the many high praises, investing in Rumparooz G2, and washable liners. 

This comprehensive review of them, compared to the rest currently on the market, has nearly convinced me it is worth it.

However they are the most expensive. But you get what you pay for.

http://www.babygearlab.com/Cloth-Diaper-Reviews/Rumparooz-G2

Though if we do this, we will keep some disposables on hand for travel, and new born.